Ask Ava: Looking for Cougars Online

Q: I am twenty years old. I love older mature women and am tired of these immature little girls at my college. I live close to Napa but can sometimes drive. I am black/cuban, 6’2″ and about 185lb. I’m 9″ hard, and I love all types of things. I would love to find a cougar near where I go to college, but I can’t find any free hookup sites. I don’t want to pay for anything online because I don’t want to take that risk. -C

A: Hi C. Ahhh… another fine young man who recognizes the advantages that older women offer. Many younger women your age are immature which is only natural – it takes years of life and sexual experiences to become confident and self-assured (a hot commodity in the dating jungle), and I’m sure you would agree, extremely alluring.

You sound like a young hottie who is also confident. I’m not sure about putting the 9” hard part in a dating profile – it’s usually enough that you’re young, have a well-written profile, and using a decent pic in order to attract responses. Most cougar specific sites have free sign-up memberships with the option of upgrading for full benefits, so you can try these. We have reviewed many sites on Cougar World you can check out. Another option is to join more mainstream sites such as OkCupid or Plenty of Fish that are both 100% free. Although these are not cougar only sites, you can limit your search to older women any time you want, and there are lots of mature women using these sites. They also have features that enable you to narrow down your search to your specific area.

When you do join a new site, spend the time to make your profile as enticing and real as possible. You can read my Profile Writing Tips for Younger Men for a step-by-step guide. The exciting thing about first joining a site is that you’ll attract a lot of women who are already on the site and looking for new members. If hookups without commitment are your primary interest, be sure to say so in your profile or first messages – you’ll be saving yourself and others time and energy.

Best of luck in your dating adventures with older women. We’re well worth it!

Read: Dating Women: Younger versus Older

Need advice on dating, relationships, or sex? SUBMIT YOUR QUESTION HERE, and who knows, you may appear in the next Cougar World newsletter. -xo Ava

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