Older Women Profile Turn-Ons and Turn-Offs

Learn what attracts older women to your dating profile, and what to avoid.

Not getting many messages from the older women you desire? Wondering why a beautiful older woman you’ve sent a message to hasn’t responded?

It may be time to pull out the magnifying glass and take a closer look at the nitty-gritty of your dating profile.

Older Women Dating Profile Turn Ons

What attracts cougars to a particular profile are the same qualities that interest most women. The more of these “turn-ons” you can write or express in your older women dating profile, the more messages you will receive.

1. Sense of Humour

You can’t say, “I’m a funny guy,” you have to show it in your prose. A little self-deprecation, your taste in music or movies, or a personal anecdote will do the trick.

Older women love a guy who makes them laugh.

Read: Texts to Send an Older Woman

2. Humility

An older woman wants to see that you have a variety of interests and activities that you enjoy, but please don’t brag by listing achievements, every country you’ve traveled to, or every mountain you’ve climbed. Save these details for a few dates in.

3. Sensitivity

Be a man, but don’t be afraid to show a little sensitivity and compassion in your profile. This can be done by mentioning your children (if you have any), pets, or volunteer work you engage in.

Something you might not talk to your buddies about is usually something a woman would be attracted to.

4. Passions

This is more than an interest or activity. A passion is something that consumes a lot of your time and thoughts. Something you strive to improve in.

A passion can be just about anything – cooking, a sport, writing, fixing old cars, building model trains, a collection. And you don’t have to be great at your passion for it to be hot to an older woman.

5. Physicality

This doesn’t mean posting a picture of your six-pack, and it doesn’t mean you have to be ripped.

Older women just don’t want a couch potato that never leaves their basement apartment. Cougars expect younger men to be more active than the men their own age.

6. Intelligence

I’m not talking about intellectual rocket scientists, but a thirst for knowledge and self-growth (especially in the bedroom) is a big turn-on for older women.

In your dating profile, mention if you’re studying something, or what you strive to learn outside of school.

7. Creativity

Creative men are a turn-on for older women – musicians, writers, artists – but I’m talking about how you compose your profile.

Try adding your own headings or subheadings, linking to your website, videos, or Twitter account, and formatting your information differently (lists, quotes, anecdotes).

A visually different profile will stand out.

8. Clarity & Brevity

If you can’t spell well or your grammar is atrocious, find a friend who can clean it up, and make it shine. Describe yourself and what you’re looking for as clearly and concisely as possible.

An older woman gets bored when a profile drones on and on. You don’t have to fit your whole life in, you just want to get her attention and pique her interest.

Older Women Profile Turn Offs

Now for five examples of things that turn older women off about dating profiles. Check to see if you are guilty of any of these…

1. No Profile Photo

Unless you’ve just signed up to your first dating site, this is inexcusable. No woman is going to read a profile if there’s no photo.

I’ve actually gotten messages from men without photos. Sorry… but they’re still waiting.

You don’t have to be the hottest guy to attract women so don’t be shy, and use more than one photo. If you’re not sure, ask a friend to help you choose a variety that show different sides of you.

2. Your Dating Profile is Too Long/Too Short

You’re not writing an autobiography and if you do, a woman will either think you’re way too into yourself or that there’s nothing left to discover.

On the flip side, if you’re profile is too short (missing information or one-word descriptions) she’s either going to think you’re lazy, not that interested in dating, or boring – none of which are good!

Write enough to peak her interest and want to learn more about you.

2. Your Profile is Too Serious/Too Funny

It’s not a job interview or application, so don’t be too formal when filling out the various areas of your dating profile.

Older women want a man with a sense of humor, a man that can make her laugh easily This is at the top of many’s women’s lists of must-haves in a partner – above looks!

But… being ON all the time is annoying, and if your profile is all satire, puns, and jokes; that’s exactly what she’s going to think you’re like in person, hence, no message. Balance balance.

4. You’re Too Picky or Particular

What I’m referring to here is writing about what you are or aren’t looking for in a woman. Frankly, I prefer when men don’t say much at all about this because you don’t feel like you have anything to live up to or any particular mold you need to fit.

If you do feel the need to write about your partner preferences (someone to exercise, travel with, etc…) be broad and not too specific, otherwise you’re shrinking your dating pool.

Older women dating should be about being open and ready to meet a variety of mature women, women you may not have realized you would be attracted to.

5. Your Dating Profile is Dishonest

Guess what? We’d all like to make more money, have a bigger house (or any house at all), or shave a few pounds or years off. Making shit up or exaggerating/minimizing truths about you and your life will only come back to bite you in the ass. It’s called dating karma!

You might be able to sneak these little white lies past a younger woman, but a cougar will call you out every time. Being real is what older women find attractive, flaws and all.

Read: Where to Meet Older Women

Guys, what do you look for in older women profiles? What are your turn-ons and turn-offs?

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