Not getting many messages from the older women you desire? Wondering why a beautiful cougar you’ve sent a message to hasn’t responded? It may be time to pull out the magnifying glass and take a closer look at the nitty gritty of your dating profile. Maybe you are new to online dating and still ironing out the kinks of your profile (I remember what that was like). But whether it’s your first profile or if it’s your seventh, check to see if you are guilty of any of these…
5 Online Dating Profile Turn Offs
Unless you’ve just signed up to your first dating site, this is inexcusable. No woman is going to read a profile if there’s no photo. I’ve actually gotten messages from men without photos, sorry… but they’re still waiting. You don’t have to be the hottest guy to attract women so don’t be shy, and use more than one photo. If you’re not sure, ask a friend to help you choose a variety that show different sides of you.
Too Long/Too Short
You’re not writing an autobiography and if you do, a woman will either think you’re way too into yourself or that there’s nothing left to discover. On the flip side, if you’re profile is too short (missing information or one word descriptions) she’s either going to think you’re lazy, not that interested in dating, or boring – none of which are good! Write enough to peak her interest and want to learn more about you.
Too Serious/Too Funny
It’s not a job interview or application, so don’t be too formal when filling out the various areas of your profile. Women want a man with a sense of humour, a man that can make her laugh easily (this is at the top of many’s women’s lists of must haves in a partner – above looks!). But… being ON all the time is annoying, and if you’re profile is all satire, puns, and jokes; that’s exactly what she’s going to think you’re like in person, hence, no message. Balance balance.
What I’m referring to here is writing about what you are or aren’t looking for in a woman. Frankly, I prefer when men don’t say much at all about this because you don’t feel like you have anything to live up to or any particular mold you need to fit. If you do feel the need to write about your partner preferences (someone to exercise, travel with, etc…) be broad and not too specific, otherwise you’re shrinking your dating pool. Online dating should be about being open and ready to meet a variety of mature women, women you may not have realized you would be attracted to.
Guess what? We’d all like to make more money, have a bigger house (or any house at all), shave a few pounds or years off. Making shit up or exaggerating/minimizing truths about you and your life will only come back to bite you in the ass. It’s called dating karma! You might be able to sneak these little white lies past a younger woman, but a cougar will call you out every time. Being real is what older women find attractive, flaws and all. Keep it real, cubs.
What profile writing tips or faux pas can you share?