How to Text an Older Woman (and Turn Her On)

Wondering how to text an older woman, or what you can say to seduce or flirt with her over text?

Texting is often our only means of communicating between trysts, especially if we’re already in a relationship. It also marks the beginning point of many hookups.

Recently, I met a young man online and had a passion-filled night before he found out he was being sent overseas for work. We’ve been sending flirtatious texts every day to keep the flame alive!

Absence really does make the heart grow fonder. It builds a great deal of anticipation. Sexting an older woman with confidence is a great skill every young man should have in his dating toolbox.

How to Flirt with a Woman over Text

You might think of yourself as a pro when it comes to sending dirty messages, but there’s always room for improvement, especially when these tips come from an older woman.

If you aren’t extremely confident or you don’t have experience with flirting through text, don’t despair. It’s easier to say everything over a text than it is in person. It can build excitement in a new relationship or spice things up in a long-term one that feels stale.

Read: How To Seduce an Older Woman

8 Sexy Texts to Send an Older Woman

Wondering what exactly to text an older woman?

Try one of these eight sexy texts the next time you’re messaging an older woman and want to turn up the heat.

1. Are you alone?

This text is a good opener when it’s late at night and you want to know if your older woman can flirt, or if she’s with another man.

2. What are you wearing?

This text may sound cheesy, and of course it’s been used a million times, but that’s because it works. Knowing that a man is thinking about our appearance – what we have on or lack thereof – is flattering.

3. I’ve been thinking about you in those tight jeans (whatever you find her hot in).

She will appreciate that you notice and care about what she looks good in, when you send this sexy text to an older woman.

4. I have to masturbate when I think of you.

Use this on a woman you have already had sexual contact with. She’ll be glad it’s her and not just porn.

5. What’s your secret bedroom weapon?

An older woman may not reveal this as she plans to surprise you, but it will get her thinking about her fantasies and desires.

6. Do you like massages?

Offering a massage is a selfless act that always impresses an older woman because erotic foreplay is as enjoyable as the finishing act.

7. Do you own any sex toys?

This sexy text will pique her curiosity as to what kind of kinky fun you’re into. Suggest some over-the-phone virtual shopping to see what you both like.

8. I was dreaming about you last night.

This text idea will have an older woman swooning. What woman doesn’t want to hear that she’s gotten into a man’s dreams? Follow up with a detailed sexy account.

Tips for Messaging Older Women

You don’t want a woman to think you’ve spent time planning and writing a text. It should feel natural and dance around the subject of sex, building anticipation.

In the context of young men chasing older women, it’s wise to consider how you communicate with a woman who, because of the generation gap, may ignore your text messages because:

1. She doesn’t understand them.
2. She’s unimpressed.

I’ve spelled out the texts (a writer can’t help it), but I’m sure most of you younger guys have your own text lingo which is okay too. Just be aware some older women are turned off by too much informality.

Guys: Do you have a go-to sexy text that tantalizes older women?

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