Projecting Confidence With An Older Lover

It’s no secret that women are attracted to men who exude confidence, but sometimes what comes across as confidence to a woman in her twenties can come off as immature or desperate to an older woman. When it comes to projecting confidence to a cougar, you have to understand the difference between self-assurance and self-absorption.

Older women, like the ladies you’ll meet on, don’t want to hear you brag. They’ve heard all of that before, and it didn’t impress them the first time. They like a quiet confidence, the kind of confidence that lets a man feel comfortable with asking questions or admitting what he doesn’t know. They don’t want some brash guy who lets everybody around him know how cool he is, they want a low-key guy who shows everybody around him how cool he is. It’s important to know the difference.

In conversation, if it’s a topic that you know a lot about, it’s fine to show that you know what you’re talking about, but don’t overdo it. There’s a fine line between impressing a woman with your knowledge and boring her with the details. If you don’t know much about the topic and she does, pay attention and ask questions, especially if she’s enjoying the discussion. Showing that you don’t have to be in charge of where the conversation goes is another way to demonstrate confidence – and to show her some well-deserved respect at the same time.

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Another underrated part of being confident is the ability to let things slide and shake them off. A confident guy doesn’t get upset about a joke made at his expense and can take a little constructive criticism from time to time. Showing confidence isn’t about dominating your cougar, it’s about showing her that you’re comfortable with being her equal, whether in the bedroom or out in public.

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