It’s easy to say age is irrelevant.
But every now and then a quick snap of reality creeps in, reminding you that your cougar girlfriend is the same age as, if not older than, your mother. Lemme tell you, when that happens, it pangs like a bugger.
Don’t be fooled. It’s a psychological mind-fuck you must condition to keep at bay. It’s society pummeling you with the notion that couples must be age-appropriate. But determined by whom? The same people who have zero problem with grampas dating 20- and 30-year-olds? Clearly, yes.
Here’s all you need to know:
Age is irrelevant. If anyone tells you otherwise, fuck’em.
Not a bad mantra, if you ask me.
So what do you do about that little voice in your head that has you convinced it would be a disaster to introduce your mother to a girlfriend older than she is? Depends on how serious you are about the relationship.
Do you introduce every woman you date to your mother, cougar or otherwise? Probably not. Not unless it’s a serious relationship with a future, at least. To do so only lets your mom see who you happen to be shagging at the moment. She doesn’t need that. Don’t give her the added worry of your girlfriend’s age.
If you and your cougar are serious, and in it for the long-haul, then take a deep breath and refer to the mantra above. Mom’ll just have to suck it up, simple as that.
Remember, your mother imagines your future, and chances are it doesn’t include a woman older than she is. Consider that, but don’t be a slave to it. It’s your relationship.
All this is fine and fair, but now allow me to suggest a bit of a reality-check:
Are we and the cougars we date actually even thinking about settling down together for the rest of our lives? Uh, no. These relationships are usually just casual, involve a great deal of sex, are often kept hush-hush, and don’t include a retirement plan.
So why bother broadcasting it at all?! Unless you have what are known as Cool Parents, I suggest you keep your cougar to yourself.