How To Talk to a Cougar Online and Off

Want to talk to a cougar but not sure how to go about it?

Meeting older women to hook up with or date has never been easier, now that cougar dating sites exist. For shy younger men, it’s a great place to practice conversational skills before actually meeting in person.

How to Talk to a Cougar Online and Off

1. Send a Great First Message

Once you find a woman’s profile that grabs your attention, you’ll want to get the ball rolling by sending a first message that gets a response.

Although many cougars are confident enough to be the first to contact a man, they will also appreciate you taking the lead – brownie points before you even meet!

2. Elevate Your Language

As you begin your quest to meet and date or have sex with a cougar, remember that the reason she is a cougar is that she is older than you. She may have children your age, so the last thing she wants is someone to take care of. This is why the language you choose is important.

It’s not necessary that you have a PhD vocabulary, but you also don’t want to throw out “OMG” and “LOL” every other sentence… save the text-talk for texting with your buddies.

3. Be Respectful

Chivalry never goes out of style. Cougars appreciate politeness, manners, and compliments.

There are many ways to charm a cougar, and telling her how fabulous she looks when you first lay eyes on her is a great opener. And don’t be afraid to work compliments throughout a conversation – women won’t mind the interruption!

Read: Cougar Pick Up Tips and Pick Up Lines

4. Don’t Mention Her Age

One mistake I find younger men often make when talking to a cougar is telling her how great she looks for her age. This only reminds her that she is older and can make even the most confident of cougars insecure.

Never add “for your age.”

Read: How to Approach a Cougar and Start a Conversation

5. Stop Talking and Listen

You can talk to a cougar and be a great conversationalist without uttering a single word. Perhaps something we all forget is that listening is half of the connection.

You may not be the most eloquent of speakers, but if you’re a great listener, you will go far with women – of any age!

Read: How to Attract a Cougar (and Become Her Prey)

Speaking of listening, here are some video tips on how to talk to a cougar from a woman who knows what she’s talking about:

Are you nervous to talk to a cougar? What have you found works best?

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