I spend so much time trumpeting the upsides of dating a cougar, I thought it might be a good time to address some common myths we sometimes — and unfairly — attach to them.
Age. I’ve heard 35 is when cougar age begins. I’ve heard 40. I’ve heard 45, even 50. Phooey. My theory is that a cougar is any woman with 10 years or more on her lover, whatever age that may be. When you’re a 20-year-old guy, a 35-year-old woman can seem ancient. Not so much with a 30-year-old guy. It’s all relative, kids.
Unattractive naked. Are you nuts?! There are women in their 60s who can out-fox a 20-something. Sure, age makes a dent, but the effects of health and fitness are certainly not a myth. We should all be so diligent as some women. Not to mention luck: some folks have all the right genes to look hot and gorgeous forever.
Old-fashioned sex. We’re talking about a woman who either has years more experience than you or doesn’t have any hangups to try new tricks. Anal, oral, doggy-style, group, BDSM — take your pick: these things have all been around and thriving for centuries before your 40-year-old date came along. Chances are it’ll be her who teaches you the ropes.
Predator. Can a cougar come on like a predator? Sure. But so can anyone. Older women can be harshly judged for making a first move. The reason: she’s not a man. Otherwise we wouldn’t bat an eye. And for the record, there are plenty of older women who’ve never made the first move. So there.
Baggage. Who isn’t likely to have a bit of baggage? The truth is many older women have had enough time and reflection to pack those bags away and move on to something more liberating. Wouldn’t you want to be a part of that? Sounds like loosey-goosey fun to me.
Boy-toy relationships. So a woman wants a younger guy for nothing but sex. (insert problem with that here…because, for the life of me, I just can’t think of one.)
Today’s lesson: don’t be so judgy. Learn this lesson now while you’re young enough to reap the rewards.