Q: Dear Ava. Not to brag, but I have a big cock. And it’s not that I’ve compared it to, or seen a lot of other men’s, but every woman I’ve been with has commented on it. I’m twenty-three and date women my own age but recently started hooking up with cougars on the advice of a friend, and I will say I like the experience they bring to the bedroom. So even though the women I’ve been with seem to like my big penis, they also complain about it hurting, like it’s hitting their stomach or something. This can put a damper on the momentum, but it’s not like I can change the size of my package. Any suggestions? -Eric
A: Hi Eric. I’m glad you’ve decide to venture into the cougar jungle. It really can be a pleasant surprise for young men who have never been with an older woman because cougars are generally more confident and experienced with sex. You may never go back!
It’s nice to be well-endowed, to be sure, because many men with smaller packages go through issues of insecurity about penis size. But… and speaking from experience, there is such a thing as too large. Most women do love discovering a big cock when they first have sex with a man, but some findings can be a little frightening, size-wise. I understand that feeling of one hitting the front of the stomach… which is hard to describe to a man.
To prevent this from happening, you’ll want to use a position that doesn’t go as deep, like missionary or sideways. If you do doggie, you’ll want to manage your thrusting and communicate with your partner as you go along. Letting her ride you is another good solution. She’ll take as much as she can handle this position. I’ve also found using lube (which I don’t normally need) helps as bigger penises tend to cause more chafing.
Also, don’t expect most women to take you all in when it comes to oral sex. If you like that sensation, let her put it all in her mouth while soft and as it grows, she can slide to a comfortable place. And though you always have to be careful with anal sex, it is especially important to go slow with a big cock. I won’t even go there with some serpents I’ve met!
If you are well-endowed, do you have any experiences, tips or tricks to share?
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