The first time is always the hardest, and I’ve always said, losing your virginity to an older woman is the best way. She’ll be understanding, experienced, and can guide you through. Not to mention, you might just enjoy yourself. If you’re ready for the big hookup, here are tips I suggest to make it a positive memory – because we never forget the first time.
Finding the woman. It’s always great to lose your virginity to someone you know, at least a little, but this isn’t always available and maybe you want the experience to be discreet. If you are looking for an older woman you may want to look online, where there are specific sites with mature women only. I recommend being honest about your virginity. It’s nothing to be embarrassed about, we’ve all been there. And . . . there are plenty of cougars who will love sharing your first foray into the sexual jungle.
Relax. Easier said than done, I know! I still get excited when I’m doing it with someone for the first time. You’ve probably watched a lot of sex scenes and have a picture(s) of what it’s going to be like. Truth is – it won’t be the clichéd sex scenes in porn or the perfect romantic exchanges portrayed in rom coms. Good sex is often fun, silly, and sometimes awkward, even for us experienced cougars. Just try to be present, and let your thoughts and feelings guide you through.
No expectations. If you’re expecting fireworks, don’t. I’ve never met a man who recalls his first time as mind-blowing. I usually hear the best part is that it got done – that they weren’t a virgin anymore. This is why I do suggest losing it to an older woman because the more experienced your partner is the more enjoyable it will be. Nonetheless, you’ll probably be nervous, get turned on fast, and come quick. A cougar isn’t going to judge you, we understand not to expect too much. Like everything in life, practice makes perfect. You have a lifetime ahead to perfect your bedroom skills.
Take your Time. Why rush this all important first time. There are no do-overs here, so take it slow and be present. All women like and require a little foreplay so enjoy the kissing, caressing, and exploring. Don’t be afraid to say if your partner is moving too fast for your liking. If you’re not sure what you’re supposed to next, follow her lead – an experienced woman will be able to direct and guide the pacing she thinks you are ready for.
Express Yourself. Talk to her. Don’t be shy about telling her what you like or don’t like that she’s doing. We’ve seen and heard it all and like to know when a man is enjoying himself. And compliments are always appreciated. Questions are welcome, how can you learn without asking, right?
Keep these tips in mind, but above all enjoy the experience. You only have one first time and the memory imprints itself forever. It won’t be your best sex, but it can be a moment worth remembering.
If you have any first time experiences to share, I’d love to hear about them:)
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